5 Signs You’re Stuck in Your Masculine Energy in Your Dating Life
In today’s fast-paced world, many women unknowingly are in their masculine energy. While there’s nothing wrong with having masculine energy, and all humans actually NEED both masculine AND feminine energy, sometimes your masculine energy can spill over into areas where it doesn’t serve you — like your dating life and relationships. When you’re in masculine energy in your dating life, you will attract men who are passive, soft, and not the assertive, masculine men you’re seeking.
So, how can you tell if you’re in your masculine energy when it comes to dating? Here are five signs to look out for:
1. You feel like you need to control every situation.
Do you always find yourself taking charge of every decision, from what restaurant to go to, to when the date should happen? If you feel like everything would fall apart unless you’re in control, this is a major sign you’re in your masculine energy in your dating life.
Masculine energy is all about action and control. But in romantic relationships, constantly needing to be the decision-maker will prevent you from receiving the masculine energy you crave from a man. You will end up leading the relationship — and over time, this can feel exhausting.
2. You struggle to let men take the lead in relationships.
Even when a guy wants to lead, you find it hard to let go and allow him to take charge. It’s not that you don’t want to, but trusting him to lead feels… uncomfortable. You may second-guess his choices. You may think, “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done right.”
3. You attract soft, feminine men.
Do you notice a pattern of attracting men who are passive, “too nice,” or have no assertiveness? This is a good sign that your masculine energy is dominant, which will unintentionally push away masculine men and attract softer, more feminine ones.
If you want to attract a masculine, assertive man, becoming more feminine will allow you to do this.
4. You’re always in ‘go-mode,’ focusing on productivity and action.
Are you constantly focused on getting things done, ticking off your to-do list, and staying productive? While there’s nothing wrong with being ambitious and driven, constantly being in ‘go-mode’ will put you in a state of masculine energy, especially in your personal life.
Feminine energy, on the other hand, is about flow, relaxation, and being present in the moment. If you find it hard to switch off from work mode and just be, it’s no wonder that your feminine energy is taking a back seat. Without tapping into that softer side, it becomes difficult to attract men with masculine energy.
5. You find it hard to relax and receive without feeling guilty.
Even when someone offers to help you, or you have the chance to sit back and enjoy something, do you find it difficult to accept? If you feel guilty or lazy when you’re not “doing,” this is a classic sign of masculine energy dominance.
Feminine energy is all about receiving, whether it’s affection, support, or simple pleasures. If you feel uneasy when someone does something for you, or you can’t fully relax without thinking about what you need to do next, it may be time to reconnect with your feminine side.
Finding Balance: Tapping Into Your Feminine Energy
The key here isn’t about rejecting your masculine energy — it’s about finding balance. Masculine energy is essential in certain areas of your life, but when it dominates your dating life, it can create an imbalance that pushes away the masculine, assertive men you want to attract.
When you tap into your feminine energy — allowing yourself to receive, relax, and trust — you’ll start to notice a shift. You’ll attract healthy, masculine men who want to lead.
Curious about how to make this shift and start attracting men with masculine energy? Click here to book a free discovery call with me, and let’s dive deeper into how you can be in your feminine energy to transform your love life.
