What Feminine Energy Is Not: Debunking the Myths
There’s a lot of confusion around what it means to embody feminine energy in relationships. Many women associate it with outdated or even toxic stereotypes, but in reality, true feminine energy is far from those misconceptions.
So, let’s start by addressing what feminine energy is definitely NOT:
Being a ‘trad-wife’
Being cold and unbothered with a man and not showing any emotion
Never revealing your insecurities
Dressing elegantly or wearing ‘feminine’ clothes such as heels and dresses
Being submissive, subservient, or being a doormat
Speaking softly and gently and never cursing
Manipulating men, strategy, or trying to get outcomes
Being a bitch
Punishing a man, ‘breaking his ego’ or ‘making him suffer’ (like what? Really?)
Having the power or the upper hand in the relationship
Being nurturing
Being toxic or playing games
So, What DOES Feminine Energy Actually Mean?
Feminine energy is:
Being and Receiving: Feminine energy is about being present, open, and receptive, while masculine energy is focused on doing and giving.
Intuition and Gut Feeling: Instead of always relying on logic and rationality (which is masculine energy), feminine energy embraces intuition and feelings.
Embodied Presence: It’s about feeling rather than thinking — being in your body and allowing yourself to experience emotions fully.
Authenticity and Vulnerability: Feminine energy is soft and open, but also strong. It’s about being authentic and vulnerable while holding healthy boundaries.
Internal Focus: Feminine energy means focusing on you — your feelings, your body, and your inner world. It’s not about constantly giving to others or sacrificing yourself.
Warmth and Trust: Feminine energy is about warmth, appreciation, trust, and being strong without being harsh or controlling.
Feminine Energy in Relationships
If you want to attract a masculine protector-provider man, or inspire the man you’re with to step into his masculine energy, the key is to be authentically you. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not or hide your flaws and insecurities. In fact, it’s through your authenticity, vulnerability, and openness that you truly inspire masculine energy.
My Approach: Authenticity, Not Manipulation
In my 1:1 feminine energy coaching, I guide you to embrace your true self — not some polished, emotionless version of what you think femininity should look like. It’s not about changing how you dress, speak, or act. It’s about helping you feel safe to be vulnerable, authentic, and in your feminine energy, while maintaining strong, healthy boundaries.
You won’t be asked to become submissive, cold, or play games.
You won’t be told to hide your emotions or pretend to be unbothered.
You won’t have to follow scripts or “strategies” to manipulate men.
Instead, my approach is rooted in empowerment and authenticity.
Ready to Embrace Your Feminine Energy?
If you’re craving a relationship where you feel feminine and protected, I can help. My coaching programs Masculine Energy Magnet (for single women) and Inspire His Masculine (for partnered women) are designed to help you attract and inspire a masculine protector-provider man — while being 100% yourself.
If you’re ready to shift the dynamic in your relationships and step fully into your feminine power, let’s connect! Book a free Discovery Session with me today, and let’s see if we’re a good fit to work together.
With love,
Isla x
