What to do if a Guy Asks You to Split the Bill on a Date
There’s a lot of advice out there on how to handle a situation where a guy asks you to split the bill on a date, and some of it can be downright confusing or unhelpful.
Here’s what you should NOT do:
Laugh it off as if it’s a joke.
Make a mean or sarcastic comment.
Say something like, “That’s the man’s job,” “I don’t pay on dates,” or “Oh! I thought this was a date!”
Instead, here’s what you should do:
Understand the Real Issue
Firstly, it’s important to understand that this situation is not really about the money.
It's about the masculine and feminine energy dynamic.
In relationships, masculine energy is about giving while feminine energy is about receiving.
When a guy suggests splitting the bill, it can disrupt this natural dynamic.
How to Respond
Here’s a script you can use if your date suggests splitting the bill:
“This feels really weird for me. It doesn’t feel romantic handling money on a date. It’s not about the money. The money isn’t important. It’s the handling of it that feels unromantic. Splitting the bill is something I do with my girlfriends, and when I do that on a date, it suddenly feels like I’m with a friend. It feels amazing spending time with you and it doesn’t have to cost money. I love [walking] and it also feels great going for [a picnic in the park]. It’s about getting to know you. What do you think?”
Why This Works
This response is:
Boundaried and Strong: It communicates your feelings and boundaries clearly.
Soft, Warm, and Compassionate: It shows understanding and respect for the other person’s perspective.
True to You: It aligns with your values and what feels good to you.
This combination of warmth and boundaries is a core aspect of feminine energy.
It respects the masculine energy in the dynamic while staying true to your own needs and feelings.
Why It Matters
Balancing warmth and distance helps create a healthy dynamic where a protector/provider man can fall in love with you and want to commit.
It’s about valuing the connection and the process of getting to know each other, rather than focusing solely on financial aspects.
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