6 Reasons Your Partner Might Not Be Embracing His Masculine Energy
Does you find yourself wishing your partner was more masculine? It’s a common concern among many women, but what if I told you that you might unknowingly be contributing to this dynamic? In this blog post, I’ll explore five ways you might unintentionally pushing him into his feminine energy and how to shift this dynamic.
1. LACK OF APPRECIATION
Men are motivated to step into their masculine energy when what they are ALREADY doing right is acknowledged and appreciated. And when they know that they are ALREADY making a positive difference in your life — that they are being of service to you. What you focus on expands. Focus on the bad, things get worse. Focus on the good (even if there’s not much), things get better. Grab my FREE 3 Steps to Make a Man Feel Appreciated to help you with this.
2. LACK OF RESPECT
Masculine energy cherishes the feminine energy’s feelings, and the feminine energy respects the masculine energy’s decisions. Respecting his decisions looks like not trying to persuade, convince, coax, or guilt-trip him when he has made a decision, but instead accepting it — even if it’s not the answer you wanted. Then, feel into what the best way forward is for YOU — eg. you might decide to leave the relationship if he says he doesn’t want to get married and you do (rather than trying to convince him to get married). Showing respect to your man also looks like respecting his opinion and thoughts. A great way to show respect for his opinion, perspective, views, and thoughts, is to ask him what do you think? For example, I love you. And I really appreciate that you always take the bins out. And I’m feeling overwhelmed with the housework at the moment. What do you think?
3. LACK OF SPACE
Giving him space looks like pouring your time, energy, and attention into YOU, instead of him or your relationship with him.
4. LACK OF ACCEPTANCE
A man will always either consciously or unconsciously resist your attempts to change him — so stop trying. Once a man feels accepted and good enough the way he already is, THEN he is often motivated to change, grow, evolve, and improve.
5. LACK OF RECEPTIVITY
Masculine energy men (which is most men) get their satisfaction and fulfilment not from what you do for them, but from what they do for you. All he wants is your happiness and gratitude in return. He wants to give to you because it makes HIM happy and gives him a sense of purpose, so let him.
6. LACK OF TRUST
Men need to feel trusted in order to step into their masculine energy. This means trusting that he is able to take care of himself — not mothering him, micromanaging him, telling him what to do, teaching him, or being his therapist.
Examples of how I used to do this:
I used to constantly be telling my partner to put on his coat or he’d get sick.
When he offered to help me cut vegetables for dinner, I wouldn’t let him because I didn’t think he could be trusted with a knife not cut himself and I didn’t want him to get hurt.
When we moved in together, he was washing in the dishes in a way that I thought was silly and inefficient so I said ‘this is the way that I do it. Maybe it will be easier this way?’
I used to remind him of his hair appointments.
I used to try to get him to share how he was feeling because I thought he’d feel better if he did.
I used to send him links to articles that I thought he should read to help our relationship.
Mothering, teaching, organising, micromanaging and therapising a man imply that you think that you know better and that you know what is best for him. Over time, he will start to believe you, and he won’t feel confident and empowered. He won’t trust himSELF and he will be weak. When you show him that you believe in and trust in him, his capability, his competence, and his decisions, he steps into his masculine energy.
If you’re ready to be more in your feminine energy, and help your man be in his true masculine…
1. Follow me here on social media (I’m on TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, & Youtube)
2. Download my FREE 3 Steps to Make a Man Feel Appreciated.
3. Book a FREE Discovery Call with me here: Book a Free Discovery Session
Love,
Isla x
Note: My content does not apply to abusive relationships. Additionally, as a women's coach, my focus is on empowering women to improve their relationships. This does not absolve men of responsibility but emphasizes actionable steps for women to take in fostering a healthy dynamic.
