Why The ‘Men Love Bitches’ Trend is a Load of BS

Have you ever felt pressured to adopt the "men love bitches" persona to attract a partner?

You're not alone.

This trend has gained popularity, but it's time to debunk the myths and embrace authenticity.

In this blog post, we'll explore why the "men love bitches" trend is a myth and how you can cultivate genuine connections without compromising your true self.

The Element of Truth

The reason why this trend has taken off is because there’s an element of truth to it.

Men who can commit and show up emotionally ARE attracted to women who are independent, self-sufficient, have good boundaries, a strong sense of self-worth and self-respect, and who have their own lives and passions outside of the relationship.

This independence is an important aspect of feminine energy.

This is the 'space' or 'distance' element of feminine energy.

However, simply embodying these traits does not put you fully in your feminine energy.

If taken to the extreme, it can make you appear cold and closed off, making it difficult for a man to connect with you.

This is not inviting to him.

The Harmful Myths

On top of that, the advice that comes with the "men love bitches" trend can be incredibly toxic.

You've probably heard things like:

- "Hide your emotions."

- "Don’t show your insecurities."

- "Save your tears for your girlfriends."

- "Don’t let him see you cry."

This is harmful advice, often given by people who are not qualified in dating or relationships.

Suppressing your true feelings and who you are is the polar opposite of feminine energy.

Embracing Authentic Feminine Energy

Feminine energy is emotional and expressive.

While it is important to maintain independence and space, it is equally important to bring in warmth, softness, kindness, and compassion.

Here’s how you can bring in the warmth:

1. Appreciate Him

Show gratitude for what he does and acknowledge his efforts.

Let him know the positive impact his actions have on your life.

For example:

- "It made me feel so special and loved when you bought me flowers the other day. Thank you."

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2. Share Your Emotions

Express all of your feelings and emotions with him, no matter what they are.

There is a way to do this from your feminine energy that is not blaming but sharing your inner world authentically.

3. Be Vulnerable

Being real and vulnerable is key.

You don’t have to hide who you are or what you’re feeling.

In fact, your vulnerability and authenticity make him feel safe, which is what ultimately makes him fall love with you, just as you are, and want to marry you.

Authenticity Over Pretense

You don’t have to be a bitch to attract provider, masculine men or to get a man to be more in his masculine.

You don’t have to hide your true feelings, emotions, or insecurities.

It’s the opposite—your vulnerability and realness are what truly attract him and build a healthy relationship.

Love,

Isla x