What I Wish I Knew Years Ago When I Wanted My Man to be More Masculine
Looking back on my journey in my relationship, there's one lesson that stands out to me: the power of honouring and respecting my partner's decisions, even when they didn't align with my own desires.
Years ago, I found myself in a situation where I was eager to move in with my partner, but he wasn't quite ready for that step.
I told him that I wanted to live together and he told me that he didn’t think it was the right time.
But I desperately wanted to move in together, so I tried to convince him why it would be a good idea.
I gave him a big list of reasons why we should do it.
We spend so much time together anyway! It just makes sense!
We can eat breakfast in the morning together. It would be so cute.
I also guilt-tripped him a bit.
His reasons why he didn’t want to move in together didn’t feel good enough for me.
As you can probably imagine, it didn’t feel good for me to have to try to convince my partner to move in with me.
AND it didn’t feel good for my partner to feel like he was being pushed into something he didn’t want to do.
I eventually gave up trying to persuade him, and finally accepted the fact that it wasn’t going to happen, and a couple weeks later, he said he wanted to move in together.
He did a complete 180.
The point is…STOP persuading your man and start taking his ‘no’ for an answer.
Masculine energy cherishes the feminine energy‘s feelings, and the feminine energy respects the masculine energy’s decisions.
Your partner needs you to respect his decisions in order to be in his masculine energy.
Not accepting his ‘no’ will feel like pressure to him and like he’s not being listened to which will either push him away from you or push him into his feminine energy.
What you need to do instead is simply say ‘okay’.
No persuading.
No convincing.
No coaxing.
No guilt-tripping.
THEN feel your emotions around his decision and feel into what’s the best way forward for you.
For example, if your partner says that he doesn’t want to get married within the next few years and you do, you accept his decision completely and then decide whether you want to stay in the relationship and completely accept the fact that you will not be marrying within the few years and let it go OR you might decide to leave the relationship and find someone who is ready for marriage.
In this example, when I let go and stopped trying to persuade him, he made the decision HIMSELF to move in together.
He felt that lack of PRESSURE on him, which was previously preventing him from wanting to move in together, and that lack of pressure drew him in.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, longing for your partner to embody more masculine energy, remember this: respect his decisions, even when they differ from your own desires.
By relinquishing the need to persuade or control, you create an environment where masculine energy can thrive.
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Love,
Isla x
